See, I usually get after this kind of stuff, but I’ve been thinking about this for a while and I realize that maybe, juuuuuuuust maybe, I only understand why this question is so ridiculous because I am on the inside of the job, not the out. So, anon, I am going to break down why exactly asking sex workers for free content is a real trashy thing to do. Maybe you’ll think twice after this.
First of all, let me just say that most of the sex workers I’ve known live off of what they make from their sales. Even with other jobs, sex work usually seems to be the thing that keeps them above water.
We put a lot of work into what we do, although you might not understand how or why. Which is cool, because I’m going to break it down for you the best that I can. This is the anatomy of a independent video shoot from my perspective.
First, I have to come up with the idea. I am the creative team, I am the writer and the script is all mine. Some days are harder than others. You have to be clever to come up with sales pitches that work. Some of my work is scripted, some videos have story lines. I come up with this stuff. That can be stressful, especially when you have a creative block (yes, sex work DOES require creativity.). When I finally have my idea, which can take any amount of time, I have to get ready for the shoot. First, is wardrobe, hair, and makeup. This can take anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes. For many models, makeup skills are required. Then, I have to set up the shoot, which usually includes lugging around photo lamps, cameras, my computer, tripods, etc.
Then shooting. Not only am I usually shoving stuff in my body, but I’m also contorting my body and face in a way that I think looks good. This can be really uncomfortable and it’s not uncommon to pull a muscle doing so (or at least for me it isn’t.). This obviously isn’t the way I look when I just lay down to masturbate privately because, honestly, not everyone looks good when they actually just masturbate. I don’t. Additionally, for the most part, I can’t see what I’m shooting. I’m my own camera crew. I can’t be watching what I’m filming while I’m being filmed at the same time. This means that, if I finish a video and there’s a part I don’t like in it, I will probably have to do the video all over again. You have absolutely no idea how stressful and infuriating this can be. After the video is done, I have to edit, upload, and market. This can also be very time consuming. Editing is also a skill that sex workers have and use, along with marketing.
All together, this process usually takes hours and hours.
This is how sex workers make money, and it can be very stressful and draining. I don’t remember a single video shoot that I’ve done that I wasn’t exhausted afterwards. Just like any other job, it can be both physically and mentally straining on us.
Imagine being in our shoes. Spending so much time on something that you created. Something unique that you actually like and are pretty proud of. Something that has to bring in money so you can get by. And some stranger comes by, and thinks that they’re entitled to get it for free.
Think twice before asking questions like this.